When contemplating healthy attachment, it’s easy to see that the heart desires protection in this debate because there is a really fine line between loving with your heart open and letting go. It’s a concept that all beings on this planet are exploring and can easily be observed in nature. If you watch animals, you will see that there is deep love and care in the early stages of development and inevitably always a moment when the mother releases her child and says goodbye.
In the wild this is easily considered “the circle of life”. In human form, it’s a bit more complex (considering we are time travellers and often replay images of the past again and again). Humans so obviously incarnate to create meaning and unpack experience through understanding. In this way we dance with Karma each and every moment.
A human child cannot live a fully sovereign life under the wings of their mother. They need to be separate in order to understand their own preferences and untangle the web of distortion or expand beyond the environment. Thus, one day becoming a lone wolf and deciding for themselves what they want for this life.
Many adults, knowing that the day of separation will come, never fully open their hearts. Others open fully, only to be completely heartbroken when the moment of separation comes.
This writing is an exploration, not to prioritise opening over closing, but rather to explore the karma that we are all facing. Remembering that lifetimes ago we entangled our web with certain other souls that we wanted to continue traveling with and at some point we became enmeshed. In an endless loop of love and loss. Ultimately becoming trapped by one another.
You can imagine it like two people wearing the same shirt. One wants to go left, the other wants to go right. The two end up in a spiral of sorts, trying to escape one another, while not feeling fully able to let go.
That is the karmic cycle that we are surpassing collectively. It’s easy to see that many mothers are separated from their young incredibly early, distracted, pulled in every which direction making it so that they will never fully attach to their young.
And though I find it incredibly heartbreaking to see children yearning for their mother and father, a part of me knows that this is karmically divine, that their soul has come here to release attachment of all kinds. Of course, this creates a lot of suffering in this lifetime, but could it be that on the greater scale, the suffering of attachment is coming to completion?
If this is Earth school and we all signed up to be here and everything is God and everything is us… Well then, this is par for the course. This is what we came for.
The forces of nature can and will pull us in a different direction.
Once we have fully felt the depth of our pain, liberation awaits. We are called towards radical unconditional love. A path to remembering that near or far, we are never truly apart.
